Men claim they want a NEET, shut-in loser girlfriend, they romanticize the idea of a woman who stays home...

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I actually dated a guy like you claim to be—he had a job, a social life, no anxiety, the total opposite of me. He always said he loved NEET girls, that he found them ‘endearing,’ and even talked about visiting me. For two years, I believed him. But over time, he pulled away—less energy, less interest. I thought maybe he just fell out of love, but now I realize the truth: Being around successful women in his real life made him see that the ‘NEET gf fantasy’ doesn’t hold up in practice.

Sorry, but i will not replace the cogs of society u gaslighting glowie fuck
Kill yourself

he had a job, a social life, no anxiety

I have a limited social life. Job wise I'm fine and I got over my anxiety years ago. Sorry if you didn't make it through the 2 year honeymoon period. But being a NEET doesn't always mean you do "nothing". My girl just a homebody introvert who has her own hobbies that I'm happy to support (as I enjoy them too).

You seem to assume NEET means that you can only be a stay at home lump of a person, when really most Neets are introverted folk who need a bit of support and someone who is willing to do that.

By being her emotional support she decided to become mine in return. If I have a rough day she likes to put on some cute cosplay and comfort me.

Sorry if you had a rough time of things, it sucks when basically you get guys who just want a desperate girl to be their onahole, instead of seeing them as a person, but with a bit of effort you may eventually find someone.

even talked about visiting me

Long distance relationships don't work whether you're a NEET or not.

‘Glowie’? ‘Cogs of society’? Lmao, you type like a 15-year-old who just discovered Anon Babble. Go outside.

You're describing a supportive, functional introvert with hobbies, not the 'loser shut-in' stereotype I was criticizing. That's great you found someone compatible, I’m happy for you, but you're proving my exact point: men don't actually want a *true* loser girlfriend (no ambition, no hygiene, no interests beyond them). They want exactly what you have—a low-maintenance *but still put-together* partner who contributes emotionally and domestically.

We know what you are, agent Leary.

LDRs are hard, but for shut-ins they're often the only option.

never met in person

its totally a real relationship guise

NGMI.

So your looking for a servant and sugar daddy, not a relationship?

That's not being a NEET.

they’d rather be with someone who has ambition, independence, and a life of her own

lol this is how we know you're a subversive glowie and not just an obese woman
women should never have been given independence, for everyone's sake including their own

Men claim they want a NEET, shut-in loser girlfriend

I don't hear many men claim that. I think there are just a lot of those girls out there. Men who are somewhat smart and capable but autistic as fuck with no social skills (aka 95% of us) tend to gravitate toward them, not because that's the ideal partner for either one but because that's the one we can get, and the balance works all right. We get sex and a companion who tolerates our social autism and messy lifestyle, she gets someone to take care of her materially and emotionally as well as hopefully try to bully her into taking a little better care of herself.

I have one myself. It is real frustrating at times because she keeps saying she's trying to get better, work out, get a job etc, but then keeps not doing it, and leaning on her million health problems as an excuse, which I can't argue with because a lot of the problems are legitimate, though they're exacerbated by depression and anxiety based hypochondria. I had always wanted a confident, independent, adventurous type girl, but those aren't common (just ones that pretend to be), and the ones that are there aren't interested in autists like me. So I got me a chubby borderline dysfunctional loser, and we do okay. The sex is good, she doesn't mind the racism and all the clutter from my autistic hobbies, I push her to try to maintain some level of hygiene and not live in a literal pile of garbage though it's a losing battle sometimes, get her to go outside and work part-time jobs when she can, and the companionship is nice. I'd probably be happier today if I had found someone more functional and energetic, but only if she was this tolerant of my autistic shit, and that was never likely to happen. And I'm way happier than I would be single. I just wish I could get her to learn that being an adult means you actually have to get the fuck over yourself and try a little harder sometimes, even when it sucks.

Bro is living the dream

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on Anon Babble

Anon Babble is the other way arround

I had always wanted a confident, independent, adventurous type girl

So I got me a chubby borderline dysfunctional loser

unironically one of the most honest replies ITT
you didn’t chase the ideal, you settled for what was available and made it work
and yeah, it’s messy, frustrating, not exactly fulfilling
most guys pretend they want this setup, but they’re not ready for the reality; low energy, no ambition, emotional labor

you at least acknowledge the tradeoff

not even disagreeing with you—this just proves my point better than I could

Bait kys lazy pandering whore or faggot

that isn't a glowie post fag that is a poltard post.

it's just a dream

dont do this, i had one, they cheated on me because i worked to pay our rent while she played online games all day

Get a life faggot

kek

White men need black daddies to give them spankings and pound their bussies into submission

so true, Shlomo.

Men claim

That is an odd way of writing "the type of guy I am personally into" anon.
Yeah guys who want a woman like that are flawed and probably end up being bad boyfriends, but what does you trying to live up to their dysfunctional fantasy of an ideal girlfriend say about you though?
If they grow frustrated and resentful once they realize the bad shit that comes from actually dating a woman like that, doesn't that say something about how bad being a woman like that actually is?
Aren't you simply just mad at guys for realizing that being with you isn't all that they cracked it up to be and trying to shame them into keeping to their bad choices?

but now I realize the truth: Being around successful women in his real life made him see that the ‘NEET gf fantasy’ doesn’t hold up in practice.

You think that men reason like you reason, that is a mistake because they don't.
He likely has several reasons for things cooling off between you, that you are completely unaware of.
Just based on how you reason in your posts, my guess is that he got tired of having to bolster your self esteem through constant validation and attention.

Nah, I love my neet wife’s smelly a welcoming hole. I pamper and spoil her as soon as I get home each day. She is my little loser princess.

not the 'loser shut-in' stereotype I was criticizing.

And claiming to be too, don't forget that, you are describing yourself with those words and getting mad that guys find the reality of you unattractive.

what does it say about you though?

weird how it always comes back to shaming the woman for fitting the exact mold he claimed to want
the whole point was: men say they want X, then get mad when X turns out to be exactly what they asked for
I’m not saying the fantasy should be preserved
I’m saying people should stop lying to themselves and others about what they actually want

Maybe people don't know what they don't want until they've tried it.

I wasn’t trying to say my relationship was flawless, I’m saying the fantasy as a whole breaks down in practice
the dynamic sounds cute in theory: soft, dependent gf + emotionally available bf
but eventually one side burns out or wakes up
it’s not about blaming men for leaving
it’s about questioning why so many pretend to want this setup in the first place
when even guys ITT are admitting they hate it once they live it

okay this dumb

pretend

Because they're not pretending? They think they want it until they experience it. They have to experience it before seeing the flaws. Then again, there are plenty of men that have exactly that kind of relationship and ARE happy with it.

Did you miss the part where I acknowledged that guys like that are also bad?
You also persist in attributing the preference you describe to all men.
I can quite honestly say that I have never wanted a woman who stays at home, doing nothing and who revolves her life around me.
A woman like that sounds like a chore, because she does nothing to entertain herself and will likely expect me to constantly validate how happy I am about her being obsessed with me.

I’m saying people should stop lying to themselves and others about what they actually want

And I'm saying that even if some guys think they want what you described, you shouldn't be trying to live up to it. Be introverted and nerdy sure, but do it in a way where you don't expect the guy to do all of the lifting in making the relationship work.
You're essentially saying "stop lying about wanting a girlfriend who allows herself to be as shitty as I allow myself to be", how about you aspire to better how you deal with your life somewhat and attract better men instead?

how about you aspire to better yourself

I did, that’s why I’m posting this, because I lived it, saw the delusion, and moved on

How can I get an actual loser gf OP?

Then put it behind you. Making a thread where you scold your ex boyfriend in absentia, just comes across as you trying to assert victimhood to avoid your part of the responsibility for having been in a dysfunctional relationship.

care to share how did you meet?

when i was unemployed, i never wanted a gf at all

I felt the same when I wasn't employed as well, mostly because I was dealing with the mental health issues that was the cause of my unemployment.
I recognized that I wasn't in a state where I could be a good boyfriend to someone, so I focused on altering my state so I could look for love later.

I would stoke the fires of ambition in her.
Well, I would have. I modeled my life around being everything my mother said my father lacked. Obviously this was a mistake. I hate women.

I modeled my life around being everything my mother said my father lacked.

Have you tried reaching out to your dad and figuring out how he actually is?

Discord gaming server, played a lot of FFXIV and Overwatch, got a long, found out we are only a few miles apart after a year or so. Went on a few home dates and some to local parks, made it official, and eventually moved in with me a few years ago.

Still going strong sense, and she's slowly come out of her shell bit by bit, but still prefers to be a home body. She does want to go to a convention eventually, so I guess she created her own goal.

i would be willing to bet it’s because you’re fat. men do love these types of women, but not fatties. then it’s just sad

got a long what?

Dick of course. Biggest dick in the tri-state area. Goes for miles it does. Big old dick. Like a mighty red wood.

I have a NEET wife, we met 8 years ago in college, both majoring in CS. She has a hot hot 10/10 body and has no clue. She loves FFXIV and WoW, plays so much games each day and has social anxiety. Loves to keep herself clean, has zero friends and lost her virginity to me. Super super kinky, loves bdsm, anal, hucow, milking, pet play. I got super lucky with her. I posted a shit ton of her censored photos yesterday.

Does she poop?

10/10 great pooper

FFXIV man, it's the perfect place to meet neet waifu's.

larp detected. Girls don't poop. Nice try, though.