The mother of my daughter wouldn’t let me see her for 12 years...

The mother of my daughter wouldn’t let me see her for 12 years. Then she surrendered her to child safety services because she could no longer look after her apparently.

Now my daughter is owned by the government and they’re making it extremely hard for me to see my kid. They will not let her have a phone or any contact with any of her family. They don’t let her speak to any of us and don’t tell me anything that’s going on. Even when they physically restrain my child they don’t update me. They’ve diagnosed her with autism and all of these conditions and are studying her like a lab rat and not telling me anything.

I’m trying very hard not to be angry about the situation but the lack of empathy and professionalism from all sides is making me internally seethe and I’m worried I may lash out in some form over it unless I’m allowed to see my child.
What should I do?

1) you're a drug user
2) you're a sex offender
3) you're a wife beater
all these stories have the same lies behind them

Sounds like you had 12 years to figure it out, but slacked off and dropped the ball, so now the government is cleaning up your mess.

Go fuck yourself

So they're right?

They won’t even let my daughter have a mobile phone or any contact with any of her family at all.
It’s nothing about me. They’re depriving her of a normal life.
She is 13 and they won’t let her have a phone.

What should I do?

Kill yourself before you become a danger to others.

No they’re not right. This isn’t about me, it’s about the government depriving my child of any contact with any of her family. For absolutely no reason.
I have done nothing to deserve it and she has done nothing either. They won’t even let her have a phone.

She’s a prisoner

The government doesn't care about you. They don't care about your kid. You are merely a unit of economic production, and she is either a lab rat or a future unit. They prefer the latter. Sorry you're in this situation, anon. As a father that is terrifying.

I won’t devolve to harming others. At worst, I’ll just expose the system for being corrupt and everybody who’s involved on a personal level

Yeah this is sus. Why couldn't you see her for 12 years? You don't just lose parental rights because the other parent doesn't like you.

Thanks for your empathy. Genuinely.
Yes it’s extremely fucked up.

They won’t even let her have a phone. She has 20 cousins and doesn’t know a single name of any of them. They don’t let her talk to anyone except for the “workers”

She has 20 cousins

No wonder they're not letting her go.

Why couldn't you see her for 12 years?

The mother hopped on a plane, ran away and cut contact a day after falling pregnant. I have tried hiring private investigators and police to track them down. Eventually by the time I found her it was too late.

You don't just lose parental rights because the other parent doesn't like you.

That’s what I thought too. I mean in a logical world.
But that’s not the case here. They’ve taken my rights and my child’s rights and basically not provided any substantial reason as to why. They’re delaying the process for as long as possible and making it extremely costly and difficult for me to even have a chance of “fighting” it.
I can’t afford a $48,000 lawyer just to “prove” that I’m not a bad father
They want me to pay for my child

You don't just lose parental rights because the other parent doesn't like you.

They diagnosed my daughter with autism and a big list of all these “conditions”
And they’re using that as the reason for why I can’t take care of her

Because apparently I’m not “educated about autism” enough and only they know how to look after her
That’s the reasoning theyve used

So even though I haven’t done anything wrong they still own her

I have never seen a case like it either

anons this all has me feeling like I’m drowning
I just want to see my kid

post the entire story or shut the fuck up

I just did
Read

I’m worried I may lash out in some form over it unless I’m allowed to see my child.

I may lash out in some form over it

lash out

government has taken a child because mother had a melt down one day

government now not letting any parents see or talk to child

government saying child is “too complex” for a “normal person” to look after due to autism

End of story

Now what do?
Who knew the government could say the reason you can’t look after your kid is because you’re not educated enough about autism

Be careful guys
Don’t let them diagnose your kids with anything or they’ll use it as a reason to take them away later
Mark my words

You can lash out by responding formally and making formal complaints and publicly exposing something
Lashing out isn’t strictly associated with physical violence you absolute ape

She is not allowed a mobile phone because she has autism
So the phone may “stimulate her negatively” which means she isn’t allowed a mobile until shes 18
Because she has autism so she isn’t allowed a phone

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!!!!!

WHAT kid isn’t allowed a phone until they’re 18????

I mean WHO DOES THAT

it’s CLEAR something fishy is going the fuck on
Fucking stuuuupid

I had my first phone when I was six

SIX!!!!!!!!
SIX For fuck sake!!!!!

Fuck QLD

It's pretty disgusting how government agencies treat kids. Things like CPS really don't protect children, they abduct them and it should be illegal. Of course we don't really have any rights. I hope you get to see your kid, anon. I mean that. It hurts to think about being in this situation, especially when it's just the mom being a psycho foid and trusting shrinks. Fuck man, I do feel for you.

You can lash out by responding formally and making formal complaints

Find me a single example of someone, anyone, on the Internet using the specific phrase "lash out" to mean "making a formal complaint".

I have done nothing

Exactly, you didn't do anything for 12 years in the courts' eyes, you just gave up and let the insane baby momma mindfuck her for her entire childhood.

AND THEYRE DOING THIS WHILE TRYING TO OUTLAW SOCIAL MEDIA FOR PEOPLE UNDER 18!!

I can’t make this shit up!!
This shit is NOT a coincidence
They are destroying families

I will see her

Literally the definition, you could’ve googled it.
Now find me a single example of a scientific study claiming that the specific phrase “lash out” is solely associated with physical violence

Just admit that you're triggered and scared by a word that depends on individual interpretation next time

it's just the mom being a psycho foid and trusting shrinks.

That’s exactly what it fucking is
They’re all in on it together

attack

Just admit that you resorted to making a threat. CPS doesn't look kindly on that sort of thing. If you really want to see your daughter again, you'll need to watch your fucking mouth.

What part of the mother got on a plane and flew away to the middle of nowhere do you not understand?
I did my best to track her down for all of those years and people like you will not guilt and mindfuck me into believing this is somehow my fault
Fuck you

Be quiet.

Just admit that you're triggered and scared by a word

Do you want t know what word I'm "triggered and scared by"? It's "admissable", the same word you should be worried about.

Be quiet.

As if *you* could silence me.

You shouldn’t disrupt a person’s family unless it’s warranted and the parents are actually criminals. There’s obviously different motives. It’s for the purposes of human study and case note collection. For “elite psychological evaluation” purposes, right?
Okay noted but there’s generally nothing admissible about a word that has multiple meanings and depends on individual interpretation. It’s not my fault those specific words caused you to fear for your life when I was using it under the defined purpose with the intention of meaning verbally. To suggest something like that could be used to convict somebody of death threats is an unintelligent take, you should really trust your assumptions less and maybe ask a person what they mean next time. Those preconceived notions are misleading you, badly, and you’re losing opportunities as a result

Just admit that you’re sliding the topic of the thread into a debate about whether or not I’m a good person to distract from the fact that a child is being deprived of contacting her family

Lashing out can mean crying in a ball in the corner and killing yourself anon
It doesn’t strictly mean violence to others
Ur so stupid it hurts my brain

What part of the mother got on a plane and flew away to the middle of nowhere do you not understand?

That is a crime, you should have pursued kidnapping charges and issued a warrant immediately, not hired a PI after a few years and hoped they would track her down instead of just taking your money.

Do you even know what a lashing is?
Because it is violent by definition and if you keep acting retarded I am going to make you pick out your own switch from the old oak tree so I can give you a good lashing with it.

I realise that.
Unfortunately I was young and I guess not well versed on the law back then.
I did call the police and enquire about pursuing charges eventually but they told me without “direct evidence” it would be difficult. When MySpace shut down I lost a lot of the old messages between the mother and I.
The only proof now is that she is indeed so far away. That and a lot of witnesses who saw the whole thing and how it unfolded.
But then it’s a matter of whether they would testify. It gets complicated.

Jesus brother, even I wasn't this bad at keeping my kid

A lashing and the term lashing out are two completely different things.
A lashing is historically an event where somebody is lashed with a rope or sharpened chain. Lashing out is a term used to imply either verbal outrage, emotional outrage, physical outrage, such as when a child “lashes out” by throwing a tantrum when denied an Xbox.

It’s not a matter of me being bad at keeping my child, it’s a matter of them being good at taking them. They’re well funded and experienced in taking children, I guess

I realise that.

You don't seem to since you are still trying to defend sitting on your hands for 12 years until the government cleaned up your mess for you.

I did call the police and enquire about pursuing charges eventually but they told me without “direct evidence” it would be difficult.

No, that is no how it works, you clearly never bothered to file a report or you would have a case number, not some vague sorry we can't help you excuse.

It gets complicated.

Its not though, in the court's eyes its pretty simple, you never filed charges to get your rights to custody, so you just look like some dude who abandoned your family and never paid child support.

op you have the syntax and behavior of somebody who does not have a solid grasp on reality. i think that you are unwell.

A lashing and the term lashing out are two completely different things.

No if you give someone a lashing, you are lashing out at them by definition, lashing means the same thing in both of those contexts.

such as when a child “lashes out” by throwing a tantrum

Tantrum also implies the child is being violent during a fit of rage.

They can't be that good if it took over 12 years of you sitting on your thumbs before they actually took the child from the crazy lady you knocked up.

Cook that fraud

I absolutely did not sit on my hands for 12 years, thank you. I don’t think you understand how difficult this woman made it to track her down.

No, that is no how it works, you clearly never bothered to file a report or you would have a case number, not some vague sorry we can't help you excuse.

As discussed I did enquire about whether I should make a report at the mother’s local station and was advised the report would be pointless without evidence.

you just look like some dude who abandoned your family and never paid child support.

Absolutely not true, I’ve done my best at every turn all things considered. On paper I look like a groomed young father who had the child taken across state lines who was denied access for over a decade before the government eventually stepped in to continue denying access. It looks really bad on paper, we have actually done formal complaints and the general manager was fairly worried about how it looked. I think they know it looks bad for them to a degree. I mean we have all of the evidence it would just be a matter of presenting it to a magistrate I guess.

Your input and meme photos are entirely irrelevant here, zoomer. Who are you?

Alright well you’ve made your point, time to move on

I tried to keep my kids mom from vaccinating, showed her mountains of evidence, interviews with PHDs, toxicologists, MDS, and parents of vaccine injured kids. All I was able to manage was to keep him from getting the HPV shot at birth, the flu shot and the MRNA. I guess that's a win, but fathers are basically powerless in regards to their children unless they're rich.

You’re right about that I guess

tried to keep my kids mom from vaccinating

This is why what happened, happened. Your daughter wanted to live with literally anybody else before she died of a preventable disease, OP.

You’re absolutely right. It’s ridiculous how much power they have over our lives.

Vaccinations, wouldn’t surprise me if my lab rat of a daughter has had 200 covid injections by now. They’re probably experimenting with all sorts of “autism medication” on her and fuck knows what else.
And they don’t tell me anything at all.

this is an anonymous imageboard and it always has been.
it's been made of anonymous input and meme photos for as long as it's been around.

Yeah well people have the right to choose what they’re vaccinated with mate
Parents are allowed to have input into what gets injected into their kids
Don’t be a fucking idiot

That’s nice? Very cool

look how dumb you sound saying this shit, jfc. you're the one who needs the meds and cps knows that

I don’t give a fuck if you think you “know better”
You’re a piece of shit forcing children to get injected with garbage
Remember that

Nobody gives a fuck. get out of the thread

I don’t think you understand how difficult this woman made it to track her down.

This is why you hire a lawyer and file a police report for kidnapping immediately not pay some shifty private eye to spy on your ex for a decade.

would be pointless without evidence.

So you text the lady about a custody swap and show that she won't respond or you sue for custody and get a warrant when she doesn't appear in court with the child, its not that hard, you clearly didn't even pursue a shared custody arrangement or attempt to pay child support over those 12 years, so no court is going to take you as anything but an absentee deadbeat father.

I’ve done my best at every turn all things considered.

You didn't even do your best at step 1 and hire a lawyer, dipshit, let alone do best at every turn.

who was denied access for over a decade

You weren't denied anything, since you never even propositioned a court for shared custody let alone filed a police report about your missing daughter.

don't tell me you're both unwell AND a newfag.
separately from the fact that it sounds like you earnestly are obsessed with a kid you haven't and aren't qualified to meet, your delusional ranting about systems you evidently know nothing about yet claim to have experience with, and your bizarre fixation on medical experiments, you don't seem to have the intelligence to take care of a child, either.

i hope you get medicated soon, little man.

Sir, you came to Anon Babble for advice and immediately got defensive. No wonder they don't want to put up with your attitude. Feelsbadman.

I will FOIA every case note and every last hospital record and post her a phone in the mail, she will be shown everything the minute she is mentally capable of comprehending it

I came here to vent and feel better
So thanks for listening
I feel a lot better

ITT: people working themselves into a shoot, brother.

You weren't denied anything, since you never even propositioned a court for shared custody let alone filed a police report about your missing daughter.

Yeah well maybe that should happen

You didn't even do your best at step 1 and hire a lawyer, dipshit,

The quote I got was $48,000
You think a fucking 18 year old can afford that shit youre dreaming no offence

be me

normal girl in the foster care system

typical disadvantages, hard lifestyle

in addition some fucking creep keeps following me to show me proof that he's my dad

hear him out

mumbles something about the FOIA and hands me several documents written with colored pencil

one of them just says 'we gave her one MILLION covid vaccinations -Da Govurment'

have to move again

So you text the lady about a custody swap and show that she won't respond

I have that

you clearly didn't even pursue a shared custody arrangement

Correct not yet anyway

no court is going to take you as anything but an absentee deadbeat father.

nah they know I’m trying

be me

normal girl in the foster care system

turn 16

my dad pays for me to fly across states

gives me a car

gives me $20,000 cash

introduces me to a big family I didn’t know I had

shows me government records explaining how I was kidnapped

hear him out

decide to stay with dad

could you imagine? you haven't even taken the first real steps to make this happen. you're not well enough to go through these processes appropriately.

for all we know, your daughter is some other dude's kid.
maybe she doesn't even exist.

maybe that should happen

Its too late now that you sat on ass for 12 years and forced the government to clean up your mess.

The quote I got was $48,000

Then you should have got more quotes.

You think a fucking 18 year old can afford

Yes, its inflated because they will put you on payment plans and if you were telling the truth and she did commit a crime and kidnap your child, you can just sue her and make her liable for paying it back, you clearly didn't bother asking any kind of follow up questions or get a second opinion or even just google it when you got your quote or you would already know this.

Crazy detected

Go on yelp, find some lawyers, call around. Go on Reddit, ask around, someone will give you advice to follow.

Only advice you will get here is to post nudes of your wife

it's possible that you knew the mother well, but she was secretly an ASIS agent who could disappear from your life with barely a trace despite strenuous efforts on your part
it's far more likely that you dumped a load in someone you barely knew, and when she got pregnant and fucked off you made no real effort to find her and spent the next decade plus doing your own thing until you were notified by the mother or the government that the kid was being taken into state care
now you care about this kid who is a stranger to you and who might not even be yours
sounds like you're interested in the girl as a loli fuckpuppet

I don’t have to imagine haha. It’s happening.

your daughter is some other dude's kid

Nah

Its too late now

Lol no it’s not. It’s never too late to report a crime. Maybe I will.

loli fuckpuppet

Holy shit you’re insane, somebody watch list this dude

it is literally too late to report crimes sometimes.

it's happening

where? how? it doesn't seem like anything has happened yet. you came here asking for advice because you're not only fully incompetent but actually demented. here's some real advice: get medicated.

i wouldn't let you near a twelve year old, by the way.

you're the one who suddenly wants access to a 13 year old girl whom you've never met and who may have no biological relationship to you

it is literally too late to report crimes

Not where I’m from buddy

where? how? it doesn't seem like anything has happened yet.

She’s not 16 right now is she champ

get medicated

Medicate yourself, pedo

you've never met

Not true, I have held her and met her and had loads of video calls
We played minecraft together. I can show you the map we built together if you want.

I cut her umbilical cord at the hospital and we did a dna test you freak
She has my last name
Stop assuming things

not where i'm from

federal statute of limitations.
are you not in the us?

she's not sixteen right now is she champ

then why the fuck are you here?

pedo

yeah, okay, Man Who Is Trying To Gain Custody of An Underage Girl He Has No Business Being Around, i'll get right on that

are you not in the us?

picrel features au domains, post in this thread literally says fuck queensland

are you not in the us?

NTA, but if you look at all the images OP posts, they have .au domains.

fuck queensland

Yes sir

stop lying

you got me there.
honestly i think it's the same difference. i don't think any sane judge would determine that your claim that this girl was kidnapped actually holds any water, or enough to last twelve years

qld makes me feel very icky and ew idk why

must be the child abuse that goes on

You are wrong, and I have the evidence that is all

show us.

I’m not showing you shit you fucking idiot

asks 'what should i do?'

makes retarded claims

talks like a schizo

posts no evidence

incompetent by his own admission

only get defensive whether confronted or given real-world advice

op, you might actually be on to something here.

1623 child abuse offences against 91 children - including 136 counts of rape and 110 counts of sexual intercourse with a child under 10 - in Brisbane

1693 child abuse offences
against 91 children

To think that those who enabled the destruction of hundreds of not thousands of families in many, many ways on all levels won’t inevitably be held accountable is a coping strategy

The rate at which Queensland as a state takes children is higher than all other state, year over year.
In some cases even outpacing the entire national average just by itself! In June 2024 Rate per 1,000 children in care Was 8.1, vs 7.9 for the entire country’s average
This is despite having a lower population by millions when compared to other states!

Clearly something is up with that

i think you foreigners just do not understand how EVIL the 'public service' is here in Australia, like, at all.

HERE in South Australia, back in the late '90s, early 00's it came to light that a man who had been working for DisabilitySA for a good 30 odd years, had been deployed all over the state, because, with the FULL KNOWLEDGE of all his colleagues and his managers, supervisors etc. he was raping kids by the hundreds by the time the scandal came to light. his 40-60 something year old fat retarded female colleagues and bosses were not only covering up his crimes for decades, but actively choosing kids to GIVE him to abuse.

HE is the ONLY one that went to jail. all the WOMEN who organised and RAN the scheme... didn't even lose their jobs.

and that's a fucking government 'service' department. 'public health care'

You tried to fuck your daughter, didn't you?

not yet, that why he wants her now all of a sudden
mom's out of the picture, if she's in state care she's going to get raped, OP figures if she's going to get raped, it might as well be him doing the raping

it's far more likely that she got pregnant and fucked off

you're right about that, all too right

depends on whether starting a thread and just posting comments.