My husband was a marine, then army then army reserves. He missed a deployment he worked hard on getting ready for to be medically denied from deploying. He became depressed and drank way more than he had before. He was able to go back to service after almost a year and a half of no contact with his superiors. The first weekend training he was allow back to he had police called on him at the hotel the army had him staying at for disorderly conduct. The next one he didnt make it to training because he was hundreds of miles off course and hit a parked police car on the highway drunk. He would not answer my phone calls or even return my messages sent through a county computer system. I had to pull up cell hpone records to get the last numbers he contacted and called them to find out what happened. So I was never thought about nor mentioned to the fellow soldier he contacted afterwards. Whom also fixed the car out of his own pocket so my husband could drive the 400 miles back home. He had a court hearing via video and missed it. And blamed the court for not properly telling him the date, which i think was bullshit but okay they redid it for him, and he still failed to log in for the hearing after I made sure he was awake and ready for it. So now he has a warrant obviously. He was officially served papers to our door. And he has been stealing my keys and credit cards at nighgt to drive to get liqour while not having a valid license not because its expired which it is but most likely because its also suspended. I havent been able to find out what happens after you hit a police car drunk and then fail to show for court, twice.
Help with legal advice
Sounds like husband's fucked
OP here. And I want to know what I should do. his arrest was made in kansas, and he is now in missouri. He's hardly eating and this is not the first time I've had to force him to go somewhere, like the hospital. But the VA will just keep him until hes sober and release him again with no concerns. And the cycle repeats. I know im at fault in some ways. Its someone I love and care about. But I want to get them help, and I also need it for myself. How do I go about informing officials about his warrant
He is. and i think he knows it and i think hes using me to stay hidden. Its a weird situation for me because he was a complete 180 of a person like this. and I dont know how to handle this or what to do
He is 90% of the time now completeley unreasonable. Just this morning I asked him why my car was parked illegally in the street in front of someones driveways and he reacted in a defensive manner of saying sorry if I over shot the curb. to which i tried showing him photos but he just rolled away on the bed. this is not the first kind of behavior Ive had from him but its starting to effect me and our neighbors and I know he has a warrant and thats my option now. If anyone has some info or advice on how to turn him in I would greatly appreciate it.
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OP here. And I want to know what I should do.
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Man, I have no idea how to help with that to be honest with you.
I guess what are you wanting to happen here?
you are going to be surprised how little shit he winds up getting in for the cop car thing; he's in "active addiction" he's either going to 1: die, 2: live a shitbox life to relatively old age and alieniate and be hated by everyone till death or 3: do a bunch of really hard shit for a long time and get better with some relapses in between.
enjoy
oh and cutting him off might be the right thing to do but also helping him to the max extent possible might be the right thing to do- there is no telling
Im asking how how I should go about turning him in. He literally right now is throwing a fit in the room. I dont sleep in the bedroom anymore. I only bring him food and most of the time he barely touches it. I've literally carried him to the car to take him to the VA twice for being sick and malnourished. and another time paramedics had to take him. The VA would keep him until liably able to discharge him. And its been a cycle.
Im asking how how I should go about turning him in.
call the warrant issuing people and tell them where he is
did you graduate high school?
you make all real and valid points. I was looking for realtime advice. And I gave my options. And you have done nothing but fruit post.
you make all real and valid points. I was looking for realtime advice. And I gave my options. And you have done nothing but fruit post.
he has a warrant, call the cops and say he has a warrant and what his name is and where he is
can you tie your own shoes?
Well I guess you could try going up to the police station and see what they can do? Just tell him you're out getting taco bell or something so he doesn't become suspicious
Thank you for all the comments i knew were coming. Its expected. Its a real issue and one I thought might have been able to be answered here.
Big black cock in his butt
Calling is not the way to go though, if you're in the house. That could turn into a situation
Its a real issue and one I thought might have been able to be answered here.
tell us what you could conceive the answer to be other than " contact the cops regarding the warrant "
like what else is there to be done regarding turning him in; what else could be said?
For those that didnt read, its a warrant from a different state. Im not going to just go to the police station or wait at a taco bell.
Time to crack open a MUG
Also this.
If you want the warrant to br executed, you gotta tell them, man. Right now you're just harboring a criminal
For those that didnt read, its a warrant from a different state.
contact them and ask them what they want you to do
Get your husband riding a BBC and then have the police enter the room as he is climaxing
Ok, fuckin call em then lol.
I mean, you don't have to do what anyone's telling you here, it doesn't sound like you want to anyway. But if you want anything done, do SOMETHING at least
Start twerking
Fuck off logfag.
I mean, I guess that's an option, but it's not productive
Spread poop rumors
yeah ive thought about that. but it would require multiple states and counties/cities being told for a situation Im not sure I can make happen. I could tell them where hes at but I dont want to harm the people who live there. A situation showing up like that isnt good.
When is the last time you sucked his dick? Can you keep him on edge and get the police to enter as he's cumming?
is it a thing where I could tell them my situation and like have them on call for when I can get him out of the house?
He hasnt been able to get a hardon in 3 years. Do you want to try with your smart mouth?
yeah ive thought about that. but it would require multiple states and counties/cities being told for a situation Im not sure I can make happen. I could tell them where hes at but I dont want to harm the people who live there. A situation showing up like that isnt good.
literallly call their non emergency number and tell them what is going on and ask them what they want you to do
tell them about how they are in one state, yet you are in another state.
tell them about his living situation
ask them what they want you to do; tell them you are worried about him and want to do the right thing
make sure to mention you are in a different state than their state, and the 2 states have different governors and that there is a border between the states so they dont forget
then do what they say
is it a thing where I could tell them my situation and like have them on call for when I can get him out of the house?
dunno, ask them; they have done this before
they do it all the time, like every day
Is he fat? Can you do prostate massage? What have you been doing for your sexual needs?
pay a lawyer, poor piece of shit. you deserve everything you get for taking legal counsel here.
dont know or care about your case, thanks for the OC thread cunt, we will make fun of your husband. this place could use some more life.
this place could use some more life.
srs
Dispatchers are the worse. Blue hoodie with black pants.
'over radio' "black smurf running south on pantaloon drive"
thats what he gets for being a retarded zogbot tough guy. enjoy prison and going to court for the ungrateful people he served.
the feds/US Marshals/whatever will probably arrest him, in case you didnt know; she's in another state
thank you for your input :)
your husband is a retard, enjoy your drama.
worthy of being posted on Anon Babble
This will be years of drama. This is some white trash bullshit. Get away and pretend not to be white trash and trick a guy who is not white trash into marrying you.
Or the rest of your life will be white trash bullshit
that's a manchild who peaked in highschool not us. you married this retard and you should betray him like a good woman if you dont want to go to prison too
show MILF tits, or get the fuck out.
nigga you did not just white knight dis hoe
he isnt fat, did you read? I carried him several times. He was nothing but skeleton the first time I had to take him to hospital. I am and will be the blame of course. When you are yelled at to get out. Then walk in one day to see their arm sticking out of the blanket and you realize what your mind has been pushing against. To the people who criticize, I am glad for you. You have humor in an obvious situation. And I agree with you now. Im trying to help someone who I have tried through a system that continues to ignore the signs. They will only help him once he is already dieing. And I dont want that.
They will only help him once he is already dieing
sounds like that process has started.
I live in a sober living right now and have a lot of experience with addicts. This is not your fault and it's just sad to watch i know. Nobody here literally thinks this is your fault. Your man is broken, the odds of him actually getting better and living a good life are about 15% and that is being generous
Tell him to get a job
He was a great husband actually for 4 years and a great boyfriend for 3 years before that. And I cant show you milf tits because I dont have tits. We had a great marriage up until a single point of deployment and the denial of it. And I have not turned him in sooner because he is still to me the person I knew him as. And I dont want a bad situation to happen.
He was a great husband actually for 4 years and a great boyfriend for 3 years before that. And I cant show you milf tits because I dont have tits. We had a great marriage up until a single point of deployment and the denial of it. And I have not turned him in sooner because he is still to me the person I knew him as. And I dont want a bad situation to happen.
omg ur a boy and you to are homosexuals?
Sending you my thoughts and prayers.
thats exactly what he was triggered into. his dad died of drug and alcohol use, and his mom has been living with liver disease for two year longer than they said she would. I hate it but being locked up i think is best for him.
Yeah thats how it works. Are you confused?
this one needs more sunday school
ha I knew this was gay and fake.
and on the off chance you do have a pussy made by God, know that I did a little BJJ and fuck better and hotter than your husband.
Now fuck off sissy
thats exactly what he was triggered into. his dad died of drug and alcohol use, and his mom has been living with liver disease for two year longer than they said she would. I hate it but being locked up i think is best for him.
it literally is
he's not going to get years for this; they are going to hold him till trial or whatever. Someone with a family history of alcoholism like that who is now an alcoholic and has fucked everything up is unlikely to get better. So prepare yourself for that reality. Keep helping and loving him if you want but don't start thinking "if I can just get X to happen he will get better" x can be locked up or rehab or anything; you can help but he has to want to get better as cliche as it sounds. Being locked up for a few months on a DUI crash charge really is not that bad
Yeah thats how it works. Are you confused?
do you also have mental health issues and drama?
more white trash drama, yawn
$5 says each of them was molested as a child
It sounds like he is on a path of self destruction. He needs to get his shit straight or you best start making funeral preparations.
I raise you 20 says nothing bad happened to him and he is a faggot homosexual by choice.
he will also be held by military court because he was travelling for military purposes
he will also be held by military court because he was travelling for military purposes
ok that's really bad
running from it wont help, he will never be able to have a job or do anything in the real world as a fugitive.
Thank you ally for your support. faggot homosexuals should have nothing bad happen to them. Hail Anon!
So is that why he has been hiding? He doesnt talk to me at all. When I ask him he gets angry and defensive. This is why I am asking this particular channel of internet. He doesnt come out of the room and will only go somewhere with me if its to a grocery store down the street. Maybe once a month. Im not stupid. You all arent stupid. I am asking for help with someone who also isnt stupid. So stop being stupid. Thank you for the genuine responses out there.
Are these actually homosexuals in this thread? I thought it was a man and woman?
There was a guy who went AWOL in 2013 or 14 in the unit I was in to dodge a deployment and managed to lay low for 10 years, they caught him when he went through a border checkpoint
All they did was process him back into the the army (which meant they had to pay and house him for this whole process ~6 months), article 15 him to strip him of his rank, then discharge him.
The whole thing was was ridiculous, he wasn't given any prison time or civilian charges. He also wasn't expected to be in uniform or go to any formations.
On topic, your husband needs to face the music. running will not help anything and his spiral will get worse and worse.
The only thing you should do right now is stay by his side while he faces this. Do not be an enabler
Degens want somthing to talk about? They dont want talk about problems? They want problems they can talk about that dont involve themselves?
So is that why he has been hiding
maybe, he's going to be court marshaled which is considered a felony in the civilian world. They come down hard on these things, he might do some time in a military prison. It's way way worse than just a civilian getting a DUI car wreck. He will be "dishonorable discharged felon" for life and everyone who got an honorable discharge will look down on him like he is scum. If he took pride in his military service; this is like death to him. His worst nightmare is happening in real life
what you need to do is pay for a session with a lawyer, right now you are harboring a federal fugitive. I have made several posts in this thread; you should have started out with this info. Totally new ball game
Yes. I'm interested. Go on.
just to let you know you have given more than enough info for anyone who matters to figure out who you are exactly. There will only be one person in the military on who got a DUI in that state and has an outstanding warrant and is married to a man.
Are you a tranny or just gay?
im trying not to be an enable by deciding wether to turn him in.
He is not considered AWOL, never has been.his unit fought for him twice, once before the accident and again afterwards. I was on the phone with the guy (idk his rank) when he was talking to my husband about what happened and even then they were going to let him continue, mostly because he was less than a years worth of retiring on military pension. And its completely gone. They sent him a packet in the mail that I showed him and urged him to read. 25 years of his life gone. because he was incompetent long enough to ever realize it was there, Its a brutal system I dont deny that.
im trying not to be an enable by deciding wether to turn him in.
was he on duty when driving? I don't get it.
nobody here is a lawyer, if anyone were, they'd probably troll you, and in the event they decided not to troll you, they probably don't have experience in the jurisdictions involved (including the military), so you're probably not going to get any good legal advice here
that said, i can give you some practical advice, which is to get yourself out of this situation any way you can
as a recovering addict, i can tell you that there's nothing you can do about his drinking
i work a program, and i'm not going to tell you that it's the only way to get clean, but i can tell you that you have to want it, and he clearly doesn't want it right now
every week i see people who are court ordered to attend meetings because they're in pre-trial diversion
the ones who want to get help stick around, and those who don't just show up to get their paper signed, then when their legal obligation is complete, the next time i see them is on the county jail booking site because they went right back to it
that's if they live; i personally know two people who've died after relapsing, another who got permanent brain damage, and another who almost died before coming back around
their are a lot of people who need recovery, but aren't going to get it because they don't want it, or maybe they're just too damaged ever to get better
one of the problems with long term heavy alcohol abuse is that it damages parts of the brain involved in judgement and impulse control, so the longer you drink, the less you're capable of making good decisions about quitting, in addition to the physically and mentally addictive properties of the substance
all of that is to say, you can't help him if he doesn't want to be helped
it's ultimatum time, if you can't live with yourself for just bailing
thanks for your input i stopped reading after you said no one is a lawyer. you can fuck off.
thanks for your input i stopped reading after you said no one is a lawyer
i thought Anon Babble would be full of criminals who wants to help another out. ionstead its full of well this shit all above.
i didn't say no one is a lawyer; i don't deny that lawyers exist
i said nobody here is a lawyer, which is true and relevant
you talk in a closed environment (thread)
you say no one here is a lawyer
Where is here? And how do you defend yourself as such?
you're tiresome
go down with the ship if you want, faggot