Great question. I never hurt my parents, but they weren't good people, either, so I was happy to get away from them.
I understand your resentment towards the military. Over time, I've slowly came to the realization that my own enlistment was for a very shitty government who hates us. And as many veterans will probably tell you, or at least solemnly agree, I feel like all those years we spent in the middle east to "Save them" was a fucking lie. Because of this, we lost really good men who died thinking they did something noble, but in fact, it was just for oil.
I feel bad for the people in Ukraine, but at least their troops are fighting for something real. I was just a naive and stupid kid. Realized as an adult how dumb the GWOT conflict was.